There was a time when no one had heard of a "swastica", because it had not been invented for Nazi usage and had not been globally popularized yet because we did not have the "media". This is the same thing. Sexual orientation and the respective societal media symbols has blown wide open and although many may not want it, it is a rapidly growing part of our common everyday society. The sexual revolution is over they say, and everyone is going home happy now. I do not believe this is the case. If you are disturbed by this last thirty year rush of radical cultural changes in the sexual revolution then hold on to your seats.
The new sexual orientation symbols being formed today along with the those formed over the last thrity years are becoming too many to follow now in this year 2012. They began with just two, as mentioned, then the homosexual wave came in and wanted public attention for the sake of equal rights by government. The governemnt awarded what they did and turned a blind eye most of the time and is still held in lengthy court schedules over it, even after Proposition 8 was successful. But new and expanding gender orientations to the sexual modus of human life rushed right past all of them in the meantime. I believe that both the petitioners and the juries were so preoccupied that not a one of them saw the growing snowball that was gaining momentum and bearing down on them whilst they rallied and debated in such focused media ferver.
So here is the snowball; the media fueled the ferver and frenzy until the petitioners calling for their rights began committing the same crimes of equality against the very people they accused of committing crimes against themselves, the petitioners for rights. The issue is that they want EVERYONE to openly embrace all froms of sexuality and all modus of public expose' of that sexuality. You have no rights now to choose anything that does not accept everything, at least that is what the fight is for now. If you don't like something, if it literally turns your stomach and makes you ill to visualize, naturally and potently, then you are a criminal against those who do like it. This is nuts! Now no one has the right to dislike anything. Eat your spinach and like it! You eat that okra and you are forced to swallow it with a smile! Here is the new crime against people who can not like homosexuality, no matter how they try. People who do not like this sexual orientation and state it as a right to choice in their own homes, lifestyles and social mores are now ill. mentally ill.
HOMOPHOBIA: The fear, hatred, and/or discomfort with people in the LGBT community, i.e; non-heterosexual. There is also homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, heterosexism, and genderism. Nonheterosexual people can believe whatever they want, but if you can't like what THEY like, it is called a phobia. It IS NOT a phobia people. It is not a fear. It is a personal comfort zone and is healthy and normal for everybody to have bounderies and comfort zones according to their conscience and consciousness. If they are homophobiacs then you are heterophobiacs. See how silly it has become?
This is the important part: You do not have to like something or agree with something for it to become an everyday reality that you have to accept and live with and "respect". Personally I do not like any of this but I am not going to stick my head in the sand because of it. There is a presentation in the Zen Dope Magazine, "Bad Sex" and more on the mental psychology and physical health of the cultural sexual public changes that are presented here that have to do with fowl sexual language, visuals, pornography, pedophilia and other injurous sexual activities and how the continual media display of such polluted sexual activity has disgusted many people into a reactionary condition of non interest in sex at all of any kind. So I will not go into injurous psychological nature of lude and continually publicised sexual behavior in this article for there is a feature in Zen Dope Subscribers Sections that goes into it in open afront without sugar coating. Not everyone can get with the whole of the sexual revolution. We are not all the same. We are not a hive. We are not clones and robots and we can not all prefer the same vegetables. So the "good" and the "bad" of it all does not need to enter this weblog article, it is the "how" and "why" of it that needs to be addressed formally. The good and bad of anything is relative and subjective to mental and emotion states of human minds anyway, which is the main reason you can not force everyone to be the same and accept the same religion, societal sexual revolutions or vegetables.
You know, I am a very open minded person and never get into my neighbors business. I am very careful to "allow" everyone their place and keep my ideas about it all to myself. I have a reputation for being kindly, polite, respectful and for always having something nice to say to people. I treat everyone equally, I bad mouth no one and I accept that people are going to be different than myself. But when I am accused of having "homophobia" and have become a "heterosexualist" nearly overnight without doing anything but living my own life in my own preferred comfort zone and completely without having made one single judgemental comment about the over-constant hype all around me all day long in society about gay rights, it irks me. It has become reversed unfair.
The point here is that your children, your brother or sister or cousin, your eventual grandchildren or great grandchildren are already living in this understanding of sexuality in every day life. The big fight is over. They have choices. This is normal human evolution. It is not that it is "bad" it is that it is over advertized and hyped.
How many of us already know that humans having sex with animals will become legal and common someday? And someday soon too. Shocked? Why? The whole thing is running like a freight train full speed with no one at the helm. How many are paying attention? How many are all caught up in it as a "cause" and not watching around the fringes? It is unstoppable. And it is not about sex, it is about privacy and the right to be who you are without harrassment.
The main of the big sexual revolution is listed as follows for current and recent rights and public acknowledgement:
ASEXUAL: Anyone without sexual feelings or a sexual orientation. Many asexual individuals have deep and meaningful relationships with others exclusive of sexual intimacy. (this one is looking pretty good to me lately . . . I want out of the whole over-hyped mess )
BISEXUAL or BI: Anyone who is emotionally, physically, affectionately, and/or sexually attracted to both men and women and identifies as such is bisexual or bi. (Emotionally and affectionately?)
GAY: Any self-identified man who is emotionally, physically, affectionately, and/or sexually attracted to men and identities as a gay man. Some women also identify as gay, preferring the term to lesbian.
HETEROSEXUAL: Anyone who is emotionally, physically, affectionately, and/or sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL: Anyone who is emotionally, physically, affectionately, and/or sexually attracted to people of the same sex. (Emotionally and affectionately?)
INTERSEX: Anyone born with sexual traits (chromosomes, anatomy, or hormones) not considered "standard" for either males or females is intersex. Intersex people can be of any sexual orientation and gender identity.
LESBIAN: Any self-identified woman who is emotionally, physically, affectionately, and/or sexually attracted to women and identities as a lesbian female.
TRANSGENDER: Anyone whose gender identity (inner sense of being a woman, man, or another gender), gender expression (outward display of one’s gender identity) or behavior is different from what is traditionally associated with their biological sex and who identifies as transgender. This umbrella term may include people who have altered or wish to alter their bodies and/or self-presentation to match their gender, and people who do not wish to change their bodies but who nonetheless transgress gender boundaries in some way (for example: people with androgynous gender presentation, cross-dressers, etc.) Remember: A person who identifies as transgender can be of any sexual orientation.
TRANSSEXUAL: Anyone whose gender identity (inner sense of being a woman, man, or another gender), gender expression (outward display of one’s gender identity) or behavior is different from what is traditionally associated with their biological sex and is in the process of physically altering their sex to fit their identity. Remember: A person who identifies as transsexual can be of any sexual orientation. Along with the symbols, each group has a "Pride Flag" or banner. I will not post these here, you get the idea.
PANSEXUAL; a person who participates in (or is open to) sexual activities of many kinds.expressing or involving sexuality in many different forms or with a variety of sexual preferences.
A Few of the New Terms or Terms with New Meanings
GENDER: A sociological construct defining the collection of characteristics that are culturally associated with maleness or femaleness (i.e. masculinity and femininity). Gender is not something that you are born with; instead, it is something that you learn from others. (Again, not everyone can agree with these new psychological evaluations and terms)
GENDER ROLE: The norms of expected behavior for men and women assigned primarily on the basis of biological sex; a sociological construct which varies from culture-to-culture.
HETEROSEXISM: The individual, group, or institutional norms and behaviors resulting from the assumption that all people are heterosexual. This system of oppression assumes that heterosexuality is "natural" or superior to other sexual orientations.
LBGT; lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.
STRAIGHT ALLY; colloquial term that describes a heterosexual person who supports equal gender civil rights, and LGBT Social Movements. Usually, a straight ally is inclusive of various diversity, and may have many gay and lesbian friends. Some organizations, such as gay-straight alliances often consist predominantly of straight ally members. (We have allies now? Does anyone need allies to go to bed with their lover?)
Think again Columbus, the world is not flat. Those of us out there, regardless of our sexual orientation, that are caring human beings can not all comfortably support the continual advertizing and airing of human individual sexuality and preferences, it should be kept in the bedroom. Why? Because if this is the new society of equality, this waving of flags and media over-saturation with the private intimate lives of people in bed does not stop, what follows suit will not be humanly pleasant. It is not a matter of sexual preference, it is a matter of privacy. Sex was wrecked as soon as we put it out there for public bashing on TV thirty years ago. Now everybody can watch people they do not know having sex in the privacy of their own living rooms. And before television? Did people do this on a mass level? Has society and humanity changed because of this? Drastically!
When assessing the speed of change and what has changed in my life time alone, not to mention my grandfathers', I can hardly cope with what you will have to deal with in yours if you are still under thirty years old today. I can see the potential future curves, and I don't want to wittness them. We have given every last dignity to monster media to bash, twist, gore and humiliate us with. Now they have it all. They know every secret.
I do not presume to know what the optimum directions of evolution for humanity should be. I do not presume that everyone is going to wish like I do. I do not contend where so many are satisfied and I do not imply that anyone is wrong in their intimate secrets. But I DO know when privacy limits have been crossed . . . You have gone too far. Heterosexuals, bisexuals and everyone else is rallying about and putting everyones sexuality out there in the open to be viewed, studied, monitored, debated, illustrated, propagandized and insulted. So there are those of us, heterosexual, bisexual and other who do not openly participate in this revolution. We are very private people and do not care for the unasked for help and publicity. We do not care for the insults and the forcings to include us in and we have our rights too. But, at the same time, we can still be aware of the changes and evolutionary tides around us and take heed and warning by watching how this has been handled and of the new revolutions coming down the path. Personally, I am waiting for the new revolutions in humanity that make sex and all it's glory and issues passe'. I often wonder when we will stop acting like we just discovered sex and genitals yesterday. It remains an unhealthy obsession completely out of balance with "soul" or "life" in the bigger scope and perspective. It is a primary, natural and common facet of human life that now dominates every aspect of "being". It seems the only thing that can compete for this popularity of sexual bodily obsessions is flatulence. We really need to grow up. The real gold in a world such as this is privacy and the right to exercise it.
Be careful with your personal choices, guard them like wealth in these current times and fight for your rights to privacy, not for "flags" to wave at others and say look at me. I say, "Relax, do whatever you want to do but put away the flags and addiction to media attention that fuels and supports dissention amongst each other". You have no idea what is coming if you don't quiet down and keep your personal life to yourself. Nobody wants to see it anyway. We have opened the bedroom door to the media monster and have left it wide open for a long time. Now we will not be able to close it again. Again, none of this is about sex, it is all about privacy. We are giving away all permissions. You think this is nuts? You think that exposing anyone and everyones' personal body knowledge and sexual privacy is all in good conscience within societal openess? No danger here? Give me a call in about ten years and apologize when you are diagnosed with "zoophobia" and put on medications and registered into therapy to help with your mental illness. Keep your rights to choose your moral character and the conscience you stand on and leave others to do the same without recruiting allies or creating the new religious wars out of common sexuality and personal private preferences.
In the meantime, here is the rest of the Sex Education Update Class for those left in the dust who may have been busy with other things over the last few years besides nosing into the bedrooms of others. . . . Oh yes, I suppose I should mention to those who are becoming offended that you might be deciding now that I am purely heterosexual by the likes of this article, well, you are not going to know because if I am not sleeping with you so it is none of your business and I do not crave to know your sexual activity behavior either. I portend here that the most of Zen Dope readers are not the type to be offended by disclosure of media faults and a fence for rights of privacy, but you just never know these days.